our breastfeeding journey | mila + lucy
so before I start this, let's get one thing straight. it really doesn't matter how you feed your baby. I have never been a mom that judged other moms on this. who cares? breastfed, bottle fed, formula fed. it's all the same. happy baby = happy mommy, and that's all that matters.
over the last few weeks, I have been getting a bunch of questions about our breastfeeding journey with the girls, so I just wanted to share with you guys incase you had questions too!
with Mila, it was hard. I think the combination of being a first time mom, with little confidence, and a screaming baby did me in. she had trouble latching, to anything. even in the hospital, they had to feed her with a dropper. she wound up being tongue tied, which I assumed was the issue. after we got that fixed, it helped her latch, but it was beyond painful for me. I would cringe every time she latched. ice packs, heating packs. I tried it all. I nursed her for 6 weeks, along with supplementing. I starting pumping after about 3 weeks (again, because I had no clue what I was doing), and mainly because I wasn't confident enough to nurse her in public at the time.
I was only concerned with having a happy baby. and honestly, once she went to formula full time, she was the happiest I had ever seen her. again, happy baby = happy mommy.
now with Lucy, the story is completely different. once she was born, she did the "boob crawl", and latched right away. she was a professional nurser and I was beyond thrilled.
she ate about every 4 hours - almost to the minute. she is very much a routine baby (like Mila was), which, as a nursing mom, is a huge help. it allowed me to know when I could shower, or clean up the house. it gave me time allotted to Mila solo, while Lucy napped. it just worked.
as usual, I did have to adjust my diet. I gave up diary for the first 2 weeks to see if that helped with her gas, then I slowly added it back in. I also ate tons of oatmeal to keep my supply up.
I started pumping when Lucy was about 6-8 weeks old (it's recommended to wait until at least 6 weeks), so that I had built up a great supply for when I returned to work.
we were lucky enough to have my husband home the first 6 weeks of Lucy's life. he mainly helped with Mila, taking her out to the park, running errands. allowing me to nurse and relax with Lucy. I was home for the first 3 months after Lucy's birth (I was home for 2 years with Mila), and I truly believe that played a huge role in our breastfeeding success. I exclusively breastfed that entire time. I had no issues nursing her out in public - hello boobs! then we introduced bottles about a week before I went back to work, and after a lot of trial and error, we found ones that worked.
now that I knew Lucy's feeding schedule, it made it easy for me to pump at work. John would feed her from my stash at home, and I would replenish it with what I had pumped at work.
now that Lucy is almost 5 months, thing have changed a bit. she has taken to the bottle much better than expected, and now prefers that over nursing - #babyledweaning. I continue to pump and save it, but as a second time mom, I know that pumping doesn't accumulate the same as nursing does. a lot of moms get discouraged when they pump and only see an ounce. they automatically assume their baby isn't getting enough, but that's usually not the case.
my pumping schedule has diminished down to about 2x a week, which I freeze. Lucy's diet now includes a formula for milk sensitivity and she just started solids. we do what works for us, and nobody else. I am beyond pleased with how long we have been able to keep breastmilk in the picture, but I know every baby is different.
don't get down on yourself if your story isn't the same. do what works for you and your baby. I hope this answered some of your questions, but if not, just comment below! I always loved hearing what worked/didn't work for other moms, it's all trial and error!
happy baby = happy mama!
happy baby = happy mama!