negativity | how to stay positive
so recently, i have come across quite a bit of personal negativity. something that was said about me stayed in my head for about 2-3 days, which normally never happens. i watched Dulce Candy's video on negativity & how to stay positive & really felt better afterwards.
with such amazing things happening in my life, i feel like i have become a target for negativity. i really don't know how these celebrities do it. i think it comes down to jealousy. for people to look at someone, who has achieved the things they want, they have no choice other than to try & bring them down.
in no way has my life been perfect, but i always (at least i always try) to see the good/positive in things. i feel that whatever you put into the universe, you will get back. if you hang around negative people, you will only see the negative things in life. if you hang around positive people, you will begin to see the positive things that life has given you.
for someone like myself who is happily married to an amazing man, who is building their dream home, with a baby boy on the way in 13 weeks, i feel like people would be gravitating towards me to try & pick up some of my positive vibes. instead, i have become a target for negativity.
didn't your mother ever teach you?
if you don't have something nice to say, shut up.
as women, we should be empowering one another, not bringing each other down. if you see a woman who is successful & happy, why not strive to be more like them? i never understood that. if someone has something you want, aspire to be like them so you can obtain the same things. why bother trying to bring others down, when it's not going to bring you up?
personally, i would feel horrible if i said something that hurt someone else. maybe it was how i was raised, but the guilt i would feel would be horrendous. knowing that you caused someone pain/anger/hurt, how could you go about your day smiling? very strange.
people do these things to try to make themselves feel better because their life isn't where they want it to be. they wish it could be more like yours & they hate the fact that they aren't happy. so instead of talking bad about someone, why not change your life to make yourself happier? wouldn't that make more sense?
be the positivity is someone's life. if you see they are negative about a certain situation, try and be the light to help them see the good. sometimes it's easier said than done - i totally get that - but in 99% of the cases, i promise there is something good. if you feel someone is constantly bringing you down, remove them from your life.
trust me, you aren't losing anything special anyways <- take it from me!